In the blink of an eye…
by Dee Woodz on Dec.13, 2010, under Uncategorized
MY WHOLE LIFE CHANGED… True words spoken by Kanye West.
When i first decided to blog a few years back, i said that good or bad, I’d keep you updated on my life. Well, something devestating has happened. My youngest daughter’s mother passed away on 12/9/10 from injuries she sustained due to a car accident she was in. When I spoke of my daughter’s mothers i would always admit that they both make my life easy. I dont have the typical drama that guys have with the mother of their children. I rely/relied heavily on the both of them. To be perfectly honest, I have two of the smartest, funniest and well behaved daughters any father could ask for. This is largely in part to the way their moms raised em. Now for my youngest, I assume all of that responsibility as well as the honor to raise her with the memory of her mom. Thats what scares me. The little things that “most” dads (I know there are a lot of single dads, but single moms far outweighs us) take for granted, I now have to do. Ive never had to register either of my daughters for school, did it for the first time today. May seem simple to you but I walked into the school office with my youngest and my sister and told the school secretary, “I need your help, I dont know what Im doing”. My daughter is/has been on my medical insurance but I still dont know about picking a doctor for her. Luckily, my sister is a huge fan of her kids doctor so it makes my decision alot easier. Its little things like this that Ive havent had to deal with before that I now do and I just don’t want to mess up.
Aside from those “trivial” task, I also have be there emotionally for my daughter as she deals with the loss of her mom and transition to living with me along with the sadness I feel. All are things that we will be dealing with from now on but I have a great support system. Between my family, her family and all of my friends, I’ll be okay.
My daughter and I will miss her and always love her and she will never be forgotten.
In memory of her, “Evisu” 
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December 13th, 2010 on 8:02 pm
It’s such a tragedy and a drastic transition for everyone! The best thing about it all is that even though you’re a goofball, you’re one of the many friends I know that is a great Dad. Before being a great Dad, you’re an awesome person to know. To know you is, is to love you, and this is why everyone will rally around to support you and your daughter. When the calls, FB posts, and Tweets stop coming and it’s just you and the silence, you’ll see your strength at work. In those times, you won’t always be able to ward off the feelings that come rushing in. And that’s ok…because you’ll sit with your feelings for a while, and then dust yourself off, find your strength to make all the hard decisions, and deal with all the changes all over again. You’ll make mistakes, as all parents do, because they’re just people with children. For that, you’ll have to forgive yourself, and cut yourself some slack. Parenthood doesn’t come with a manual. Even without kids, I know that my mother made the best decisions she knew how to make, and I forgave her anything I felt slighted by because she was a great Mom….and you’re a great Dad. So I know your daughter will forgive you for your mistakes too. We all love you, and I know it will be challenging. I’m sure you’ll forever love her, and so will your baby. I’ll say a good prayer for you and your family that each day will get better, and that you’ll always have everything and everyone you need to get through it all! I love you lots, and sincerely sorry for your loss!
January 2nd, 2011 on 9:57 pm
I’m so, so, sorry for your loss. May God keep, heal, and
protect you and your daughter through this difficult time and
always.